In a world where honesty is often preached as the ultimate foundation of love, George Awuni Ayika, a panelist on A1 Radio’s Love Affairs programme has sparked a heated debate with a controversial claim; “Lies are sometimes good in relationships.”
According to Awuni, complete honesty can, at times, destroy the very bond it seeks to protect. Speaking on the Love Affairs program on A1 Radio, he argued that while truth is vital, selective honesty, or what he calls “protective lying,” can help preserve peace and emotional stability between partners.
“There are lies that heal, and there are truths that wound,” he said firmly. “Not every truth builds love. Sometimes, saying what your partner needs to hear is wiser than saying what you feel in the heat of the moment.”
The “Protective Lie” Philosophy
Awuni explained that he has witnessed relationships collapse not because of betrayal or infidelity, but because of what he terms “reckless honesty.”
He cited common examples such as a husband bluntly telling his wife she has gained weight, a girlfriend admitting she finds another man attractive, and a partner revealing every detail of a past relationship, believing it builds transparency.
“Such truths rarely strengthen trust,” he noted. “Instead, they breed insecurity, jealousy, and emotional distance. A small lie that protects your partner’s confidence can sometimes be the glue that holds you together.”
The Thin Line Between Peace and Pretense
Mr. Awuni cautioned that while selective honesty can preserve peace, overuse can create a “false sense of love.”
“It’s like using perfume to cover body odor,” he explained. “Eventually, the smell comes back stronger if you don’t wash properly. Lies should be used with maturity, not as a lifestyle.”
He emphasized the importance of emotional timing — knowing “when, how, and what truth to deliver” without damaging mutual respect or trust.
Love Affairs is an engaging and interactive relationship talk show on A1 Radio, dedicated to fostering meaningful conversations about love, relationships, and personal growth. The program features expert advice, real-life stories, and listener engagement to help individuals and couples navigate the complexities of modern relationships.
The show airs every Thursday from 8:30 p.m. to 10:00 p.m.
Source: A1Radioonline.com|101.1 MHz|Samuel Adagom|Bolgatanga
