Aplorepeya Ayamga has cautioned men against what he describes as the “modern-day trap” of shared household responsibilities, warning that it could reduce the sanctity of marriage to a mere cohabitation arrangement.
Speaking on the Love Affairs program on A1 Radio, Counselor Aporepeya argued that many young men have misunderstood the concept of partnership in marriage, turning it into a roommate-style relationship that erodes traditional respect and structure within the home.
“When you let a woman partake in the running of the family, then you’ll be living as co-tenants,” he said. “What the woman needs the money for is to take care of herself, but she can support you once in a while when she sees that you’re struggling financially. However, she’s not supposed to take an active part just because she has money. That would cause her to lose respect for you, and your marriage will suffer. So as a man, if you want to marry, make sure you can take care of your wife, children, and family before you do — that’s the only way to have a happy marriage.”
According to him, the growing influence of gender equality narratives has confused many young couples into thinking that balancing duties automatically leads to peace. Instead, he warned, such practices often create silent tension and competition rather than cooperation.
The counselor, who has been working with couples across the Upper East Region, said he has observed a worrying trend of rising divorce and emotional detachment among urban couples who claim to practice “equal partnership.”
“I’m not against help from your wife,” he clarified, “but when help turns into habit and habit becomes expectation, the man loses his authority — and the marriage becomes a tenancy. There must be balance and understanding, not blind equality.”
Source: A1Radioonline.com|101.1 MHz|Samuel Adagom|Bolgatanga
