Relationship Counselor, Purepeya Ayamga, popularly known as Counselor Apurepeya has urged young people and prospective couples to be realistic and intentional when choosing romantic partners, warning that many relationship failures stem from ignoring personal capacity, compatibility, and readiness.
Speaking on A1 Radio’s popular Love Affairs programme, Counselor Apurepeya emphasized what he described as the most fundamental principle in relationship building: “Go for your size.”
According to him, the principle simply means “cut your coat according to your size”—understanding your financial ability, physical attractiveness, personal values, and life direction before pursuing a partner.
“It is very important that when you are pursuing a lady, you must know whether you are able to cater for her needs. Every lady is different, and how much they are ‘worth’ is also different. Go for someone you can afford and who fits your budget,” he explained on air.
The counselor noted that many young men enter relationships they cannot sustain financially, leading to frustration, pressure, conflict, and eventual breakdown. He cautioned against competing with peers or chasing lifestyles beyond one’s means in the name of love.
Beyond finances, Counselor Apurepeya stressed the importance of physical compatibility and mutual attraction. He advised potential partners to observe feedback and responses rather than forcing relationships where interest is not clearly reciprocated.
“You must wait for the response. The lady will show you through her actions whether you qualify physically. Acceptance is important. Once she responds positively, it means your physical appearance is okay for her,” he stated.
He further encouraged listeners to assess emotional readiness and direction before committing. According to him, no one can suddenly change another person’s mindset, values, or life goals simply because of love.
“You need to understand where the lady is going in life. Is she ready for a relationship? What kind of relationship does she want? Sometimes age matters. You must know the stage of development of the person you are pursuing,” he added.
The counselor also highlighted economic stability as a key factor, noting that many women prefer to have some level of financial independence before entering serious relationships to avoid dependency and unnecessary pressure on partners.
He further advised listeners to observe conversational cues, especially attitudes toward marriage and long-term commitment.
“If you bring up marriage in general conversation and the lady shows no interest, it means she is not ready to settle. That is a sign you should withdraw early and avoid emotional damage,” he cautioned.
The Love Affairs programme continues to serve as a trusted platform for relationship education, providing listeners with real-life perspectives on love, compatibility, and responsible decision-making in the Upper East Region.
Source: A1 Radio | 101.1 Mhz | Samuel Adagom | Bolgatanga
